Yesterday New Jersey joined the other 13 states in this country who are civilized enough to allow marriage equality. I lived in New Jersey at the time its Supreme Court held it was unconstitutional to refuse same-sex couples the same rights and responsibilities and straight couples. I remember the day clearly for several reasons. The first is that several of my colleagues shot over celebratory emails the instant the decision was published. The second, which I'll admit stuck with me much more, is the sound of one of my superiors stomping down the hallway and shouting with one of the other more conservative attorneys about how incorrect the decision was. It was October of 2006. I had been legally married, thanks to a trip to Canada, for four months. Her anger and disbelief stung.
In the wake of the decision the state passed civil unions rather than full-fledged marriage. We lived in New Jersey for another three years before moving for my wife's residency. New Jersey passed equal marriage only to have it vetoed by Chris Christie (who somehow thinks people are going to elect him President). And so, the state waited, until now. A court ruled that based on the U.S. Supreme Court's rulings this spring New Jersey could no longer deny people the right to marry. The N.J. Supreme Court agreed and finally Chris Christie got out of the way by dropping his appeal. Suck it Christie, no matter how hard you try you are going to lose on this one. You can stand in the school house door but the world has changed too much to go back and you will end up looking as much a fool as George Wallace.
“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” Justice, just like wedding cake, tastes damn fine. Congratulations New Jersey and all the couples enjoying their right to be married.